1. First and foremost, limerence is about YOU not THEM.
We idealize because we are lacking something within ourselves. Whether that be certain characteristics in them that we are envious of or loneliness that kills us from the inside out, limerence is a reflection of what’s missing on the inside. Once you realize that, you can fill those voids instead of putting another person on a pedestal.
The pain of heartbreak is the type of pain one never forgets. For those who have suffered, it truly feels like an open wound. Vulerable, in pain, longing for recovery. It’s a feeling that runs through the veins, cuts like a knife, and damages the innocence you once possessed.
Heartbreak is more than just losing someone, it’s also losing a part of yourself, the hopeful part of yourself that held onto the belief of true love.
Forgiveness. One simple word, yet the very thought of giving it to someone who caused you pain and trouble seems burdensome to do and may not even cross your mind. It is normal to grieve about what happened and get angry because that is what makes you human, but do not stay like that for long. Holding grudges and harboring pain breeds negativity that can sabotage your happiness and eventually destroy you without you even noticing.
Look at yourself in the mirror and remember who you were before these people came into your life. You deserve to heal.
We always find it difficult to forgive those who hurt us, don’t we? They say it hurts even more when the people we love, care, and trust the most are the ones who cause us pain. It is definitely a hard pill to swallow, but we have to accept the fundamental truth that forgiveness is healing of wounds.