Dating can be tough for everyone, but getting back out there trying to meet people after a bad breakup is even more difficult! Even if your breakup was amicable, you’re probably nursing some bruised feelings about the end of a long-term relationship and will be out of practice in meeting people. But, when you feel ready to put yourself out there, dating can help you to feel normal and like yourself again.
Here are some tips for getting back on your feet.
1. Make Sure You’re Ready
Ending a relationship can be very emotional and upsetting, so it is probably best to wait until you are sure you feel ready before you start dating! You’ll be more likely to meet someone you genuinely like and have a better chance of building a healthy relationship than you would if you met someone while still licking your wounds from a messy split.
Also, it’s important to remember that you should only start dating when you want to. Don’t let loved ones who mean well pressure you into ‘getting back out there’ if you don’t feel ready to do it yet. Date because you’d like to meet new people and enjoy yourself, not to get back at an ex or make yourself feel wanted again.
2. Approach Dating The Right Way
Just because your previous relationship ended doesn’t mean you have anything to prove. You might meet the one through dating, or you might not. Both options are fine. You don’t need to approach every date like a search for a new long-term partner or potential spouse. Instead, try to relax and have fun. Dating should be fun, and a good way to spend time with new and interesting people.
Also, try not to compare the people you date to your ex. It won’t help. Always be honest too; a bad breakup is a distressing experience and it’s sure to make a difference to the way you approach a relationship. If you’re struggling, be honest from the start to get things off on the right foot.
Take things slowly at first. Dating might be tough, so don’t push yourself to rush into a relationship. When you meet someone you’d like to get more serious with, take things steady and be honest with them about any emotional difficulties you may be having in trying to get closer to them. Communication is key.
3. Try Different Ways Of Meeting People
There are lots of different ways to meet people. You could ask a friend to set you up on a blind date, go speed dating, sign up for online dating or join local classes and activities to meet like-minded people. Whichever option works for you is fine. There’s no right way to meet someone. Try a few and see what you enjoy!
Treat dating as a way to try something new. Go on dates with people you wouldn’t have dated before your last relationship. You never know who might end up being attractive to you or what relationships you may build (by accident!).